July's Love Tip of the Month
LOVE
TIP OF THE MONTH – JULY
“Opposites
attract because they attempt to move towards
the center that lies between them.
Two opposing qualities, personalities or viewpoints complement each other
because they inspire awakening – which brings positive change, if you let
it.”
So here we are, smack dab in
the middle of Summer. That doesn’t meant
you have to let conflicts get you heated!
Let the “opposites” of your relationship bring you closer together when
you meet in the middle. Polarized
attributes can bring about some really monumental transformation – and it
doesn’t require fussing and fighting (although indeed, struggle is often part of
change, even positive change). Here are
three ways to keep you focused on celebrating your
differences:
1.) Acknowledge the fact that you have attracted
this person into your life. If he’s a
procrastinator, you may have an innate need to motivate others. Regardless of his personality traits, there
is something in you that craves his ways.
Take responsibility for your role in the relationship, and you will
immediately gain power – because you are only in control of your own thoughts
and actions…not his.
2.) Try to remember what initially attracted you
to your mate. Was it his determined,
“Type A” personality? Oftentimes the
traits that first attract us to someone end up being the same traits that get on
our nerves after a few years. This is
because we instinctually desire growth, and what we are attracted to invariably
produces personal growth. So was it his
aggressive personality something that you were attracted to in the
beginning? What changed? Was it because it caused you to change? How so?
3.) Remember that whatever others do, it’s their
own way of seeking love. As strange as
it may be to apply to this theory to actions stemming from anger, fear, neurosis
and sadness, everything we do is to get closer to love. We call each other names because it makes us
feel more important, and therefore more lovable. We are too afraid to step out of our comfort
zone because we don’t want to be judged, and therefore less lovable. Always try to look at your mate’s less
desirable traits and examine how he or she is really seeking more
love.
This is why it’s important to
meet in the middle. Our own individual
personality traits are each beautiful in their own way, but when we get too
“off-center”, it indicates an imbalance of our love for ourselves. When we become too fearful, too domineering,
or too passive, it means that we’ve lost some control. Respect your partner’s differences, as their
influence may be exactly what you need in your life. Enjoy the move toward the center, as center
equals equilibrium – also known as peace of mind.
Enjoy the rest of
July!
Lisa
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